I would start today with, “Dear Reader…”, but I believe that phrase will sound like the start of a current Netflix series. So instead, let me just start with, “Hello, my friends”.
To start, let me explain that this blog goes to several sites, such as the PLG website, Facebook, and a website local to me. While I get feedback and responses from all of the sites, Facebook is the only one that gives me statistics in real time. This means I get a notification each time someone interacts with the page, which also includes alerting me to new followers.
So… let me back up here… I started this page at the suggestion of an old acquaintance – someone from childhood who popped in and out of my life only long enough to give this suggestion. Admittedly, when I started this blog, I knew it was mostly for me… it allowed me a weekly space to express my grief, as well as a chance to share my experiences with other people experiencing loss… but… mostly a space to express my grief.
I never planned for it to be anything more. In fact, every year when it comes time to renew all of the apps and programs that I need to do this, I reiterate my vision and renew my vow that if this blog is helpful to even one other soul, then I will keep writing.
This is where it gets complicated in my heart, which really hit me hard this week…
You see, each time someone new finds us through FB and I receive that notification, it comes with a “congratulations” of sorts for the “increase” in followers. It also means I receive pushes to “do more” to increase those numbers.
But here is what I see… Each of those “followers” that FB wants to celebrate is a person – a living, breathing person, and each person is hurting and struggling… each person is mourning a loss… a loss no one wanted or requested. In other words, each person coming to this page is doing so out of pain… something I would never wish on anyone.
Right now… across all sites and by best guestimates, there are several thousand of us… That is a lot of hurt.
That is where I have mixed emotions. On the one hand, I am so very thankful that this has become a safe space to share our grief. At the same time, I am So very sorry for the pain each of us has experienced, (and likely still is).
Each time I see a new number and/or name pop up, I find myself stopping my day and saying a quick prayer of healing and comfort for that person… and on more than one occasion, I have shed a tear (or more) for that person… and for the rest of us.
Grief is hard… Being on this part of our journey is not something we chose. (Who in the world would??)
I guess, I just wanted all of you to know how much I care about each person here and the journey you are on. While I hate the reasons that put us all together, I am also thankful that we do have each other.
I truly care about each of you and hope that this week you are able to do whatever you need to in order to take that next step on your path.
Love always,
Linda
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Grief is a daily challenge that changes us in ways we could never foresee, making this journey a difficult path for anyone. That is why I share the mistakes I have made, as well as what I have felt and learned along the way. Even sharing our stories of love and life can be helpful on this journey. We know learning to function on this new path is hard, and it is easy to lose our way or forget that we don’t have to do it alone.
I don’t think any of us chose to be here… I know I didn’t. Yet, this is where life has landed us for now… This is where we are. Our lives are now filled with challenges we never imagined and emotions that feel overwhelming at times. So often, I think I have it all figured out, only to find that isn’t true at all. Despite the years since Bruce passed, my life is still filled with challenges, as I am sure yours is too. Learning to take it one day/moment at a time is all any of us can do.
Thankfully, I know I am not alone… None of us are… We have each other. It is our love for those we have lost that brings us together into this space where we can share our experiences. I believe the sharing of our stories is so important… I believe it is healing. Do you have a story to tell? I believe we can find courage and strength in one another’s stories. I believe we can offer each other empathy when we open our hearts to one another. I don’t know about you, but it makes me feel better knowing there are others out there who understand what I mean, and what I feel. It’s nice to know I’m not alone.
Maybe this strikes a chord with you too. We would all love to hear your thoughts or your story. If you would like to share your experience or if you need a helping hand or maybe a virtual hug, let us know. We are here for you… This is our community. To share your thoughts and experiences go to the comments and leave your message.*
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